Valentines Day Balloon
Lifestyle,  Love & Sex,  Relationships

Why its ok not to celebrate Valentine’s Day and 5 bonuses thanks to the day of love

Valentine’s Day is fast approaching and its like marmite, you either love it or you hate it.

Unless you’ve been living under a rock since the dawn of time, you will know that Valentine’s day is nearly upon us. Thursday 14th February 2019, one whole day out of 365 of them actually. That is full of Love, Sex and competing with the world to solidify the fact you have that ‘relationship’ and are definition of couples goals. Or maybe you just plain love shoving your relationship in everyone’s faces! Believe me there are some, cue the “The boy did good” posts with a picture of something pandora. Is what you see on Social media even real though? Probably not. Anyway back to the matter at hand.

By the end of the 1st week of January you can bet your bottom dollar that 99% of shops are dressed head to toe in various shades of reds and pinks. Hearts and flowers are everywhere and not to mention all the cards. Adverts start to pop up in every shop and restaurant window to let you know that if he ain’t feeding you on valentines, your relationship is pretty shit. Or you are totally missing out. There is nowhere you can run or hide to from it. Gee thanks Cupid!

Personal Preference is key

Whether you love Valentine’s Day or not its all down to your personal preference. Every person has their own reason for celebrating the day. And whatever your reason, i hope its pretty damn special.

Personally I am not a Valentine’s day person. I think it is completely overrated. A breeding ground for unhealthy comparisons and negative feelings especially when it’s all you see on social media. It can be a tough time to be single and reminded every minute of the day that you’re destined to be alone with your 27 cats. Not everyone has a life partner, whether that be through choice or just because they haven’t found their person yet. And thats ok. It’s ok not to jump on the band wagon and celebrate a really overrated day. Just because you choose to be single or have found yourself in that position, does not determine your worth or how loveable you are. If you’re thinking that i’m here to tell you, you are wrong.

Show someone you love them for all 365 days of the year, not just one..

Now some of you may think I sound a little bitter and I totally get why you would be getting that vibe. And thats ok, i’ll be honest I do hate valentine’s day, thats no secret. I am lucky enough to be in a healthy and happy relationship yet I still hate it and probably always will. Maybe its down to a bad experience or just my belief system. For me I think you should show your partner that you love them every single day of 365 of them that we have. Not just that one day.

There are many ways you can show your sweetie that you love them whether thats just asking how their day went, cooking them dinner or running them a bath. Or maybe you just listen and let them vent their frustrations or their elations. When you are in a relationship you are team. As they say “team work makes the dream work”. And that couldn’t be more true. They are your best friend and your partner in crime.

Take off those Heart Shaped Glasses

Let’s look at this from a different angle for a second. Friends are your support system. They make you laugh, smile and cry. They pick you up when you are down and always keep you grounded, no matter what. Your ride or die chicks. You always tell your best friend how beautiful she looks when you go out to paint the town red, why? Just because she actually does. Or you always thank her because when smiling is the last thing you want to do, she makes you smile anyway. Shout out to my Besties! They have picked me up and put me back together so many times. And i’m talking literally out of a puddle once haha, thanks D <3

You are forever showing appreciation for your friends. So why would showing your partner that same appreciation be any different? We don’t celebrate a friends day and we don’t need to. Your friends know you love and appreciate them every single day because we are always telling them. So why is it different with our Partner? Do we need to celebrate Valentine’s, a day of love? No not really. When you look at the bigger picture, there really is no difference between the two.

Appreciate everyone but especially those who deserve it most.

I get that relationships are different, you spend the bulk of your time with your partner. You live together, sleep together and eat together, every single day. And that can be hard on your relationship. Good days, bad days or off days, you go through that shit together. You don’t live in your friends pockets like you do you partners so it’s easier to appreciate them. But the ones who deserve the most appreciation for putting up with your shit is that exact person. Your life partner. Times can be tough and life can get in the way, so it will never be everyday. But basically what i’m saying is show more gratitude and appreciation to them not just on Valentines but throughout the year. In fact show everyone you love, the appreciation they deserve. You never know the positive impact it may have on their day.

Now Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be a drag if you’re single or just not feeling the love. There are so many perks to embracing the day. So rather sitting indoors in your comfy PJ’s, eating chinese and crying into your glass of Pinot whilst watching The Notebook or PS I Love You (and really there is nothing wrong with that, totally been there). Get your arse dressed up, dolled up and put your beautiful self out there.

5 bonuses thanks to the day of Love

So in the spirit of Valentine’s day, i though i’d share the love and outline 5 positive ways to spend the day, especially if its just not your cup of tea:

  • Meal or Meal Deal – Restaurants offer up some of the best discounts and set menu’s on Valentine’s Day. Not just on the day but usually the week before and after the event. What does that mean for you? You can book a table at a restaurant with your girls and enjoy a beautiful 3 course meal for an absolute steal of a price. Or if you’re not feeling that valentine’s restaurant vibe, get yourself down to stores like M&S or Asda and make the most of their Valentine’s meal deals. They’re perfect for you and a girlfriend. So go on treat yourself!

  • Cute Cheap Chocolates – Chocolates, Chocolates every where. Pink ones, heart shaped ones and just those that are plain and just down right delicious. Chocolates are an arrow to every Valentine’s Bow. So you can guarantee that there are offers galore to be had on chocolates. If you a cocoa fiend like me, you are winning. But the best bit is they get even cheaper after V Day. How can you say no?

  • Nights out just got even better. Planning a night out with your girls to a bar or club? What better night than the Saturday of Valentine’s Weekend (if they are single of course). All the couples are out celebrating their love so the bars and clubs are less busy but buzzing with all the singletons. You never know you might meet the man or woman of your dreams who doesn’t have a valentine either 😉

  • Gifts. Retailers love Valentines Day, its always another excuse to release a special edition Valentine’s day product or just another way to get you to spend your money. How? By advertising some cracking deals. Jewellery, clothes, you name it they’re all on sale. Even if it’s not on Sale, treat yourself anyway and show yourself some love. It would be rude not too.

  • You get to do whatever the hell you want. And what great is you won’t feel one iota of guilt while doing it. You get to celebrate the glorious, incredible person that is you. Spend sometime taking care of yourself. Give yourself that me time that you sacrifice most days. Buy yourself a nice bottle of wine, or pink gin (whatever your preference, i’d pick gin.) practice that makeup look you’ve been wanting to for the last 6 months. Take a luxurious bubble bath, or just pick up that good book that has been sitting on the shelf for god knows how long. Celebrate you. What better way to remind yourself how amazing you are than to treat yourself the way you’d like to be treated? Go get em girl.

So whether you love Valentine’s or you don’t, there really is something for everyone. It doesn’t have to be a drag and its ok not to be loved up on the most overrated day of the year. Likewise it’s ok to celebrate and appreciate your sweetie on this day. Just remember there are 364 other days in the year, so be consistent. Your partner deserves it. Whatever you get up to, i hope its pretty damn special.

Loves,
Amy xo

Planning to get celebrate Valentine’s day with some good old fashioned sex? But you don’t want to the worry about the consequences (because you know condoms are so not sexy). Check out my other post all about Birth control.

14 Comments

  • Melissa

    I’m honestly indifferent to VDay. I don’t love it or hate it but there’s a reason for that that has nothing to do with relationships or love or any of that. I 100% agree with the love someone 365 days not just one day. I’d much rather show someone I love them every day then have someone spend money on me on the 14th because the calendar says so.

    • Amy Lauren

      Definitely hun. I think so many people get wrapped up in what society tells us Valentine’s should be, like spending money on gifts and dinner. You should show someone you love them all the time not just when we are told its ok too. People spend so much time comparing as well. They value their relationship based on materialistic things rather than the little things that are done to make your life a little easier day to day. I do honestly think thats why relationships are so easily thrown away these days. If a relationship doesn’t look like what social media show us is the perfect relationship, rather than fix it they discard it and look for something new. Grass is not always greener. Thanks for reading 🙂

  • Lady Blank

    I love your positive ways to spend Valentines day instead of the commericalised sterotypes that we are given. We are having a home cooked meal instead of going out to avoid the craziness.

    • Amy Lauren

      Thanks hun, though i’d put another spin on it because not everyone celebrates it and i get that. Aw that’ll be nice, i totally agree better to avoid the craziness, i hope you have a lovely meal. Thanks for reading 🙂

    • Amy Lauren

      Thanks hun, really kind of you. Yes it definitely is people get so caught up in one day they forget there is 364 more that you can show someone you love them. Thank you so much for reading and the lovely feedback. Will go over and check your blog out. I do worry about blog stats so i’m sure it’ll be so helpful 🙂

  • Bexa

    I loved reading this post, Amy! Very well said! I agree, there is SO much hype surrounding Valentines Day and it puts pressure on couples to enjoy themselves and buy each other expensive gifts. I am currently single so trying to ignore all the build up to it, although I have made myself some Valentines Day cupcakes to share with my sister and we are gonna watch a girly film together, yay! Also, I read the line about being single and having 27 cats, that is my lifelong dream (ha ha ha!!). I’ve just got 24 more to go… Thanks for sharing, fab post <3 xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

    • Amy Lauren

      You’re so right, it really does heap the pressure on people to celebrate in a way that society tells us we should. It’s so commercialised now it doesn’t feel as special as it should be. I don’t blame you at all, i’m in a relationship and even now i still ignore it all haha. Aw that’s so cute. Cupcakes and films with your sister sounds like the perfect way to not celebrate the day. I’d take that over any of the valentines stuff they offer. I hope you have the best time and i see a post about it or some pictures 🙂 Haha me too! I love cats so much and 27 is the dream. You’re one ahead of me, we’ll get there eventually. Thanks so much for reading and your kind words <3 xxxx

  • Lena Dee

    Ahhhh! I loved this post lol nothing but truth. You just got yourself another subscriber. I really like your writing style and I love the layout of your blog (and this is just me seeing it from my phone). I totes agree with the sales bonus lol it’s the top day for marketers and as a result we get loads of sales and I go to town on some of them 😂 last few years I’ve celebrated vday with my girls whether we have a mate or not. Haha our love is stronger plus the day can always be shared.

    xx Lena | https://lenadeexo.com

    • Amy Lauren

      Thanks hun 🙂 appreciate you reading and you’re kind words. 100% i think that is the best result of the day is all the sales. I don’t blame you for making the most of it, when you’re a queen you have to treat yourself to the good stuff. Show yourself the love. Thats so nice, valentines with your friends is the best and i love that you do it regardless if you with someone or not. Gotta celebrate your friends. They are the ones who will always be there. Thanks for reading. Can’t wait to see some of your posts 🙂 xxxx

  • Melissa

    I love the fact that more and more people seem to see Valentine’s Day as kind of pointless and that the better idea is to celebrate love and the one you love, every day, not just one day. And I really like your ideas on how to spend the day, whether you like vday or not.

    • Amy Lauren

      Totally agree with you hun. It is properly overrated and its nice to see that not everyone is hung up on celebrating it. You should be doing all these you do in that one day all year. Thank you for reading 🙂

  • Chloe Osborn

    I love this, everything you’ve said is so true. Why should we dedicate just one day to our partners when they’re there for us every single day? I love your five bonuses too, single people really shouldn’t have to feel pressure as it is just a commercialised day that doesn’t mean anything, so they should do whatever they please or take advantage of the discount food! Valentine’s doesn’t have to just be about partners.

    • Amy Lauren

      Exactly, society has made us believe that our relationships are only worth celebrating one day of the year. When really we should be doing all of those things that we do on valentines all year round. I’ve seen so many singletons beat theirselves up because they have no one on valentines and its awful they feel that way. Thanks for reading hun, hopefully it helped someone to still enjoy the day regardless of what it means.

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