One of my New Year’s Resolution was to write a blog and here i am writing my first post on New Year’s Resolutions. I think I’ve felt a range of emotions whilst writing this. Part of me was nervous of putting myself out there. But another part of me was excited to be pushing myself to get this off the ground.
It’s almost February. The first month of the year is almost over already, seriously where has that month gone? So i thought what better way to kick off my blog than by talking about New Year’s Resolutions. Especially as statistics show that 80% of people have already given up on the bulk of their goals by February.
2019 already? You’ve got to be kidding me!
Now you know how it is, you’re living your almost best life and one day you wake up and BAM! It’s New Years Eve and you’re on the precipice of a whole new year. 365 new days, 365 more chances to make this the best year yet. To appreciate your successes and failures of the year gone by.
Let’s be honest, 2018 flew by ridiculously quickly. It only feels like a couple of months ago that you’d wrote out your last set of New Year’s Resolutions. When you look back on those it really does feel like there is so much that you still haven’t achieved. Well that was me when I woke up on New Year’s Eve. I had absolutely nothing/zero/zilch on my New Year’s Resolution list. It’s usually by this point I have at least 5 unrealistic expectations for the year. So here I was heading in to 2019 feeling a little lost.
Now New Year’s Resolutions aren’t the bee all and end all. But it’s good to head into a New Year with a little more focus and some specific goals in mind. Yet here I was with nothing. I’m not the most organised person in the world (NYR 5 is to be a little more organised). So I don’t know why I was surprised by the lack of a list.
Let’s stop and think about this for a minute
When most people start a diet or the gym they start on a Monday. Or the first day of a new week or a new month. For most people it’s the first day of a brand new year. And that really works for some but usually what starts out with good intentions normally ends up with failure. Why you ask? Because as much as its a new week or a new year you’re actually really not that ready at all. Not your state of mind anyway and it can be really overwhelming.
As you can probably tell on New Year’s eve I was so not ready to start smashing a new year. Which was when I made the executive decision to do things a little different this year. A New Year is all about change right? So rather than panic and come up with some crap that I almost certainly would not achieve. This time I would let a couple of days. Hell maybe even a week or 2 go by before I started on my journey.
I think I wrote my Resolutions out on day number 7, Monday January 7th. It wasn’t until a couple of days later on Wednesday January 9th, that I actually started them. Seems weird right? Bizarrely it wasn’t. I had already braved the most difficult 3 days back at work and when Monday had rolled around I was back in a routine and I felt ready to go.
So here’s my New Year’s Resolutions for 2019
Capture as many memories as possible by taking more photos/videos
Spend more time with the people you love. Parents, Grandparents and Friends.
Buy a house – Save more
Have at least one holiday
Be more organised – be more in control of your life
Push yourself to be more creative
No Diet or Fitness Goals?
Now you’ll notice that a diet or fitness has not made it onto my list and there is a reason for that. I spent so many years rekindling my love for the Gym and starting my new diet on January 2nd. But as quick as I had started, I had pushed myself too much too soon. Next thing I knew I had given up and made myself miserable for failing. And failure sucks, it knocks your confidence and makes you question your abilities.
One thing I promised myself after I did the Cambridge diet was that I would never take much notice of the scales ever again! In one way or another it’s the sad step. Every man, woman and child knows that and i did not need to be sad…its 2019 for gods sake. So instead i’m just making healthier food choices and taking notice of how I actually feel in myself. For once i’m actually taking notice of my body shape including how my clothes fit rather scrutinising myself over a couple of numbers on a scale. All of that takes time so I am not setting this as a goal, this is a lifestyle change for the long term.
Back to the resolutions themselves
So these are my end goals and I do actually have little milestones for each goal to let me know that i’m heading in the right direction. When I sat down and thrashed these out for the first time I did also think about 1) why they were important to me and 2) how I feel these would influence my life for the better. And i can honestly say I do believe that by doing this, it sets you up for success.
It doesn’t matter if you start on a Wednesday or in June, as long as you are in the right headspace. If you know what you want and what it means to you to achieve those little milestone win’s along the way, then you can 100% achieve your goals.
And if you don’t, well it’s no biggie. The world is not going to stop or change just because you didn’t get it right this time. You can always try again another day, another month or even another year. Maybe break that specific goal down into little milestones like I did. Each little milestone you reach reaffirms that you’re on your way. If thats not working for you then maybe you can rejig your goal a little bit. Take it down another path to something else you want to achieve instead.
So how are you getting on?
I’m pleased to say i have already had some little wins for some of my goals. I’m not there yet and I don’t expect to be. But it’s a start and every time I reach one of my little milestones, i know i’m heading in the right direction. And if I stick at it and keep pushing through then eventually I will reach my end goal. I’ll share one of them with you below:
New Year’s Resolution 1 – Capture as many memories as possible by taking more photos/videos
Why is it important? I love that feeling you get when you look at photos or videos. Its like reliving that very moment all over again with those people who were with you at that time. Memories are priceless especially remembering some of those very special moments in life.
How would it make my life better? It’s a big step out of my comfort zone to push myself to take more photos, as I don’t think I am particularly photo genic so it makes me less inclined to appear in said photos. It makes me a little anxious but I’ve finally come to realise that if I do it more there will come a time I will feel better about it and I will have all these memories to share and look back on.
Milestones: After days of research I have actually bought myself a decent camera with good video and Photo capabilities. A bonus is its compact so it can just fit in my pocket, so I have no excuse not to take this with me. It wasn’t cheap and if you know me well, you know I do like to get my moneys worth so it was a sure fire way that I will make myself use it.
So there you have it, my new year’s resolutions
That was only one of my new year’s resolutions and how i made it more meaningful and workable for me. It’s a really simple thing to do. And by asking yourself those questions it actually makes you realise whether you are truly serious about making each of these particular goals happen.
One thing I would urge everyone to remember is that even if you don’t make your goal a reality when a New Year rolls around then please don’t beat yourself up. You may not have finished yet but you need to remember how far you have already come. I guarantee it’s much further than you think. And for that you should be proud.
So tell me beautiful people what are your new years resolutions? Did you start on day 1 or later like me? Let me know in the comments below 🙂