8 Ways to be more Positive and have that Glass Half Full Mindset
February 17, 2019
This little thing called life is tough..
Being positive can be difficult at times especially when we are programmed to see the worst in most situations. I’ll be honest, Life can be a bitch. I won’t sugar coat it for you guys as its the truth. There are so many areas in your life that can be great but there are also some that leave you feeling really unaccomplished.
Maybe you’re in a job you hate or maybe you can’t shed those extra pounds to get the body you want and dream of. Or maybe your relationships feel like they are taking a turn for the worse. Whether that be Friends, family or partners. I feel you, i do! We’ve all been there at some point and its pretty shit.
Life can be tough and how you perceive what happens in your life can have a huge impact on you emotionally. We’re all guilty of moaning and complaining about how things aren’t going as planned and how we are failing to change certain things in our life. And more often than not we fall into this unhappiness trap on a daily basis. Well some of us even do this numerous times throughout the day. Why? Because as a society we have been so desensitised to complaining that it becomes a constant in our life without us even realising.
Complaining breeds negativity. That negativity seeps in to every thought and feeling we have. It can leave you feeling out of sorts and pretty shitty. And the sad fact is we very rarely realise we have done this to ourselves.
Now I don’t want any of you beating yourself up. As human beings we do that enough on a daily basis and we shouldn’t. Its not healthy and it’s not your fault. There is so much going on in life that it’s easy to slip into that negative pattern when something doesn’t go your way. It makes us human. And unfortunately negativity is a disease.
Negative Thoughts attract more Negative Thoughts
Negativity is like cancer, once it takes hold it doesn’t take long to spread and infect other areas of our life. Soon enough you feel like your glass is half empty. Always looking at what you don’t have rather than being grateful for what you do. You feel like an ugly person for not being grateful enough, especially as alot of people do have it worse.
See thats the thing with negative thoughts. They multiply. For every positive thought we have there are hundreds of negative ones. Have you noticed when something goes wrong in the morning, everything feels like its spiralling out of control? Maybe you stub your toe in the morning, it hurts and it makes you angry, questioning how you could be so careless. Then when brushing your teeth you accidentally spill toothpaste on your top just before going out the house (this is definitely me, don’t ask, my gob is big enough and i still manage it). Then theres traffic everywhere which in turn makes you late for work or your train. The list goes on and on. But why? Because negative feelings attract more of the same, yep you guessed it… negative feelings. It’s not coincidental its actually down to your mindset.
Have you noticed that those people who get what they want in life, whether thats success or a banging body, are always upbeat and happy. You don’t get those negative vibes from these people. They have an unwavering faith and confidence in everything they do or set out to do. That isn’t a coincidence or chance. The truth is When you change your thoughts, you change your world. And there is so much power to positive thoughts. Why not start benefiting from them when they are yours to claim.
Start thinking positive
Now cultivating a positive mindset and putting that in to practice is easier said than done. Its a tough act to follow when your mind is full of negative feelings that you have mastered over your life time. But its the best thing you can do to break free and start living life as glass half full kind of person. So how do you become more positive and change the outcome of your life? Here are 8 steps to get you back on track and living your best life:
1. Wake up in the morning and tell yourself today is going to be a good day.
Now this is going to sound really silly as its such a simple thing to do and you’re probably thinking “but Amy its really not that easy”. I agree it isn’t but bare with me for a second and hear me out.
Ultimately you have the power to take charge of your day and make it the best it can be. Even if your day doesn’t start off as planned it doesn’t have to continue that way. You are the master of your life. Positivity creates opportunity and pessimism kill it. Don’t be that person. Take the chance to create opportunity in your day.
Even if you know you are probably going to have a hard day at work because it’s crazy busy. Don’t let it get the better of you. Choose to accept today will be hard but react to the situation and move on from it in a productive way. They key is taking a step back and not letting it overwhelm you by finding positive solutions to the problem. Life will challenge your tenacity from time to time, thats just part of life. If it was easy it would be boring. It’s how you handle that challenge that either makes or breaks your mindset and outlook on the rest of your day.
Create an opportunity to feel better about the situation. Maybe its organising and prioritising your day to make it that little bit easier. By knowing you have specific tasks to do and taking time to write them down it feels a little less chaotic. Then when you tick those tasks off your list it will feel like a weight is lifted and you will feel so much more fulfilled. Chances are you approach the situation differently when we remain positive. And when the day is over go do something you enjoy. It will do wonders for how you feel at the end of those hard days.
2. Change your perspective and rewrite your negativity.
Now if you’ve always been a glass half empty sort of person its hard to think positive when you’re in a negative thought process. That negative thought process is normal for us pessimists and its been ingrained into us after many years of thinking this way.
It does take alot of mindfulness and also willingness to make the change. The first thing to do is catch yourself when a negative thought pops up. Maybe you don’t want it to rain today because you forgot your umbrella and it will ruin your gorgeous hair that you spent ages perfecting. Blood, sweat and tears to look like a drowned rat. In your head all you are thinking is “Its going to rain and its going to ruin my hair” or “I don’t want it to rain because it will ruin my hair”. By thinking it’s going to rain, the chances are it probably will when you are out in the elements because that is the message you are sending out. Who doesn’t dislike a miserable, dreary rainy day. You need to make a change to that thought process.
Now I’m going to go all law of attraction on you right now by saying what you think about you bring about but it really is true. Every thought you have does have an impact on the vibe you send the world. And the Universe does give us what we ask for. You don’t want rain, all the universe hears is rain. So what are you going to get? Yes you guessed it lovelies…Rain. So start sending out a better message.
Catch the thought when you think of it and zone in on it. Then flip it by thinking about it from an opposite and more positive angle. Instead of thinking what you don’t want, think of what you do want. If you don’t want rain then you’re probably going to want some sun instead. So think the Sun will come out and it will remain a beautiful dry and bright day. You need to think of what you want rather than what you don’t want. It sounds stupid and like it won’t work and i get that. It took me a while but by switching your thinking it also changes how we feel about the situation. How we think and feel determines how we behave.
3. Do something everyday that makes you happy.
One of the most important things to do to become a glass half full type of person is to do actually do things that you enjoy.
Yes unless you’re in a job you love, working can be pretty unenjoyable at times and leave you feeling pretty unfulfilled. But if we engage in activities that bring us a sense of comfort and happiness, then it can really lift our spirits and make us feel a little bit more positive. We are all guilty of letting life get in the way and sacrificing our “me time” when we feel overwhelmed. It is just human nature but it shouldn’t be.
Self care is incredibly important for you mental health. Sometimes you do need to say to yourself, ok todays been shitty, i need to chill out. Maybe it’s coming home from work after a long day and binge watching Gossip Girl on Netflix with a glass of pinot (yep thats a bit of me). You could love painting or swimming or cooking up some carb-tastic goodies. Or maybe you just enjoy having a long hot bath and reading your favourite book. Whatever you choose make sure its something that you love. If it’s not try something different and see how you feel. For me i love getting home and writing my next blog posts or getting involved in the blogging community. I find its helped me mentally as its an outlet and escape from my long days at work. Find your Happy.
4. Look how far you’ve come
When we’re feeling negative its usually because we’re looking at the things we haven’t done or achieved yet. Especially when we are surrounded by people accomplishing all those things that we want. Maybe like me you’ve been saving to buy a house. You’re putting so much work into getting a deposit together at the expense of your social life and you’re still not there yet. Try stopping for a second and looking at your past successes and how far you’ve come.
The truth of the matter is, noone is going to save enough money to get a mortgage overnight (well unless you’re a stockbroker and earning ridiculous dollar). But you’re on your way and that is a feat in itself. You are making progress to where you want to be and it’s only a matter of time before that dream is a reality. Yes you may not have the house yet but there will be so many amazing things you’ve already achieved.
You’ve got a great job and your earning a decent salary. That salary is enabling you to save enough money every month to still live your life and to get your house one day soon. Maybe you’ve lost 20lbs over the past 5 years or you’ve travelled to some of the most incredible places in world and experienced things people only dream about.
Despite all the problems life throws at you, remember you are moving forward even if its baby steps. You are not where you used to be and those experiences have made you the person you are today. So don’t be too hard on yourself. Looking at past successes and positive experiences can help shift a negative mindset and remind us that overall, the good outweighs the bad.
5. Stop comparing yourself to others.
Now this is by far one of the hardest changes to make. Especially as we are more aware than ever of what other people are doing thanks to social media. Maybe your friend gets a raise, buys a bigger house, gets a better car or has really loved up relationship. Don’t sit and think how you don’t have those things. This isn’t about you. Everyone takes different paths in life and how things work out is different for everyone. It doesn’t matter whether you have a Rolex or a Michael Kors watch, ultimately they both tell the same time.
Everyone does things or gets to certain points in their life at different times. Just because right now you don’t have that doesn’t make you any less valuable or means you will never improve. You’re just not there yet because it’s not your time. So for now be happy for them. Maybe there is something you have that they don’t and would love to have. There is something empowering about being able to accept and be happy for someone’s achievements and usually we fare worse by being negative.
6. Imagine the worst case scenario.
When you have a negative thought or you’re worrying about something. Rather than dwelling on it ask yourself what is the worst that could happen? Can i survive that outcome? Chances are you can survive the worst outcome and it is never be as bad as you think.
By accepting the worst in a situation this will help us lighten up and let go of the doom & gloom we are feeling at that particular moment in time. By knowing you can deal with with the worst outcome of each scenario you are eliminating the fear. And did you know fear is the root cause of those negative feelings? No i didn’t either until i started to change my mindset. And even if that worst case scenario does come to fruition then you are equipped to deal with it and move on from a better place.
7. Ask a friend.
Think of the most positive person you know. Maybe its your best friend or maybe its even your Grandad (mine is). It’s that person who has such a great outlook on life, no matter what shit life throws at them they always manage to find that silver lining.
Have you found that person? Good well from now on they are the devil on your shoulder. And they will be playing devils advocate with everything you do.
For everything negative thought you have, i want you to think of this person and ask yourself what would they do? Take a minute to think about it, like really think about it. Chances are they are going to have a completely different perception to the situation than you have right now.
Say for example you went on a date with someone and you thought it went great but that person wasn’t feeling it. You get let down and you never hear from them again. It hurts and you start to question if you are attractive enough, funny enough or even skinny enough. We’ve all been there at some point in our lives.
It does make you feel unattractive and unloveable. But what would your positive influence do; Would they be upset? To begin with probably. Would they dwell on it? Probably not. Yes they would be upset at first but you wouldn’t catch them crying into a tub of Ben & jerry’s a week later. Nope instead they would be holding their head high and saying “I know its not me that wasn’t good enough, it was them. That person just wasn’t right for me. But everything happens for a reason and yes it didn’t work out which is a shame. But i know that’s because something better is going to come along”.
Chances are these people see every opportunity in their setbacks. And we should all try to do the same. Step into their shoes and see the changes happen.
8. Before you go to bed write down what you are grateful for.
Yep you heard me right. When you’re all cosy from your bath and ready to jump into bed. Take 15 mins to write down 5-10 things that you are thankful for. It can seem like a task but once you start writing down all the good things, the positive feelings will continue to flow.
Now It doesn’t have to be huge things, just the little things that are often overlooked. Do some soul searching and look at the positives. Maybe you’re grateful you have a job. Having a job pays your bills and give you the ability to do or have what you want (within reason). Yes it might be shit but until you can change that, don’t forget all the good stuff that is so easily overlooked. And remember if you don’t like something, then you can always change it.
Be the change you want to see.
There are so many ways that can help change your outlook on life to a more positive one. Those people i spoke about earlier that get what they want in life and are always upbeat and happy, that really could be you, if you change your mindset.
Now you don’t have to try all of these, maybe there are some that resonate with you more than others. But even if you try to do just one it can really have an impact on your life. Seeking out small positives in everyday life can have an incredible effect on how you view your surroundings and change your life for the better. So go on give it a go and let me know in the comments below.
Loves, Amy xo
If you’re looking for more inspiration and want to set some goal for 2019, then go check out my post on my Not so New Years Resolutions. Just because January has passed doesn’t mean you can’t set some goals that will be achievable by time 2020 rolls around.